Reply To: Divorced and Remarried Woman–didn't cut her losses

Hacham–you have accuarately summed this person up in one word! Couldn’t have said it better in such a forum.

Yatzmich–Very true, but a person who is in total denial and is driven to show the world that she is “right” would never get it.

Always here – Kudos to you for taking the high road!!

Am Yisroel Chai– You’re projecting… As I explained–it’s hard to believe but factually true. No person is perfect, but the scales are totally tipped in the husband’s favor in terms of attitude and behavior. You just don’t want to believe that there are such evil, toxic people lurking in our society.

A Heimishe Mom–I think you have assessed this quite well. She should have had therapy and she should still have therapy. But if a person thinks that everything they do is 100% proper and correct and would never submit themselves to scrutiny then they’d never be a candidate for therapy.

Mikehall–Loshon Horah is very complicated and goes far beyond the immediate person to whom it is directed. Then you go on to the fallout from the second level and beyond of its recipients

Mommamia– Too late to have let go when one doesn’t deal with their issues in the appropriate time and place. The havoc she wreaked and the damage she has done is irreparable. And the husband wasn’t and isn’t abusive. Was he perfect? No!! Because no human being is perfect. My perception of her is the reality of who she is and the monster she created.

And just to satisfy your curiosity–I am not the first husband and thank Hashem that I am not related to as Hacham aptly coined her–the witch–in any way shape or form.