Tomche-
His status is primarily manifested by his making most of the decisions. Not that he enjoys decision-making, but it is healthy for him to do so and for me to accept his decisions. (I decided that;)
We do discuss the issues, and he hears me out, but the outcome is up to him. Truthfully, we usually arrive at the decision together; nevertheless, I try to refrain from saying it myself and instead ask him what his decision is.
Since marriage is the joining of masculinity and femininity, it is essential for a woman to let her husband be a true man, utilizing his masculine traits, and for a man to let his wife be a true woman, utilizing her feminine traits.
Chazal described specific attributes of men and women and established guidelines concerning husband’s and wife’s responsibilities toward each other which are obviously perfectly suited to cultivating their respective inherent traits, and, thus, to the attainment of the ideal marriage.