I definitely second ursula momish.
Dear Kallah, it sounds like he’s yielding to your will on more than one issue (men’s mikvah thread?). Please go for help together; if he doesn’t want to go, go alone.
Remember this rule, it will serve you well:
He’s the boss!
(From a woman who’s the boss at work and the boss of her children; who breaks lots of rules, but not this one)