“if the guys actually had to go out and work hard to get a girl, they would appreciate them more. naturally, they would be more sensitive. the insensitivities come from lack of appreciation for something they got with little effort.”
I disagree. I’m a guy and I do have to work hard to find a girl, but that is not why I act like a mensch. I think that good guys (and most of my friends fit in this category) will not act any differently b/c they have it easier in shidduchim than girls do. A mensch will always try to act like a mensch, there’s no reason to make excuses for the guys that choose not to.