adorable- Yes, it most definitely is tough, and in my father’s case, it was even more tough because he still pretends that he’s a great father and nothing’s wrong.
Hacham- Yes, some Rabbis do handle it well. But I’m sure that some don’t. I won’t say that the posters here who claim Rabbis don’t handle it well are wrong, because maybe they know of Rabbis that actually handle it incorrectly.