soright: You’re right. I am not opposed to it in theory. I am opposed to it being misused as a response to the shidduch crisis. There is a need for it to exist, but it has to be l’shem shamayim, not just because men who are considered “good boys” have the power to do it, so they want to do it. I feel very uneasy about the willingness people are showing to consider it, since among other things it shows:
– girls have given up on finding an appropriate shidduch
– people have given up on having enough good boys
– “good” boys are feeling entitled – one wife to earn, the other to stay home – similar to Lemech in dor Hamabul, with everyone out for himself
– lack of understanding of what this means for our culture
– lack of emulating Gedolim, none of whom have ever in history done this (since the Churban – before the Churban perhaps we were on a level to do this)
– acharon acharon chaviv, lack of concern with women’s wishes.