I’m with you, Gefen. Hashem gave us the mitzvos to LIVE ??? ???, not to be paralyzed with fear in the context in which you write. Hashem is a loving G-d & not punitive in the way that 1 mistake & one gets clobbered ch”v.
The Sefer HaKuzari writes that we should consider each and every mitzvah as a personal invitation by Hashem to enter into His very palace.
There’s an INCREDIBLE vort on the megila we just read:
We read in ????? ??? that when Boaz sees Ruth at his feet, he says in 4:11-4:13 that (paraphrasing) my daughter, don’t be afraid. Whatever you say, I’ll do. I’m a redeemer, but there’s a closer redeemer. Stay the night. In the morning, if he’ll redeem you, fine. Otherwise I’ll redeem you. Lie down till the morning.
The ?? ??? ?? says that these are not only Boaz’s words but also Hashem’s!
Hashem says to Am Yisrael: Stay through the long night of ????. Don’t ever give up, for morning will surely come. And when morning comes, you have a closer redeemer, your own ????? ?????? ?????. Perhaps they’ll be enough to redeem you when ???? comes.
But if not ch”v, if you’ve been loyal to Hashem, then Hashem Himself will be your redeemer and do not be afraid!
So you see, intention & loyalty is very important.
Do not be afraid!