bpt, not entirely sure whether you are agreeing or disagreeing with me, but we seem to be somewhat on the same page. What I meant was that the staying at home itself isn’t as worrisome to me as some of the other things he is doing, like:
“He shirks the responsibity Hashem charged him with
He does not appreciate his wife’s role
He disregards what his daas torah told him to do”.
I feel that people shouldn’t overly focus on the “staying home unemployed” problem when there are bigger fish to fry.