Reply To: Many attempts were made for the Kallah. How would you proceed?

aries, The OP did NOT say she was HIRED, nor that she was a PROFESSIONAL shadchan who runs this business and counts on the money for parnassah.

HUH? Irrelevant! Whether a Shadchan is professional or not, they succeeded in making the specific person’s Shidduch and have to be compensated. No Shadchan charges or expects anything for attempts at arranging dates, or per arranged date, but these days anytime someone completes a Shidduch, it goes without saying, unless the Shadchan is the rare breed who says they want no more than a dollar, that the Shadchan should get paid something close to the community’s going rate, professional or not!!!

Aries, I usually agree with you, but not in this case. How many Shidduchim have you heard of where the Shadchan was given zilch (involving relatives and friends where you’d have heard if the Shadchan got zilch) ? I havent heard of any! It’s sort of rare.

No I wont take them to a Din Torah or anything like that, though.