PBA:
“But this time I am right. Real right. Read what I said again. Doesn’t it make sense? Isn’t the purpose of parents so that we can understand how Hashem treats us? So doesn’t it follow that if our parents act in a way that we wouldn’t want Hashem to act, that we will have a negative view of Hashem?”
Yes, having bad parents can certainly be one cause for kids going OTD. However, it is far from the only cause. Therefore, I don’t think we can or should automatically assume that the parents are always at fault if the kid is having problems with Yiddishkeit.
As I pointed out above, just like you would not “blame” (or credit) a baal teshuva’s parent with his/her return, we should not blame an OTD kids’ parents for his/her situation. And might I point out that two out of three of our Avos had kids who went OTD, and I doubt that any of us can be half as good of a parent (or just about anything else, for that matter) as they were.
aries:
“Massering is massering, and if you masser to the parents or a Rav you have no control of the results of your interfering. So YES I am going to go there.”
I’m sorry, but you’re being ridiculous. Telling a parent or teacher what their kid/student is doing is simply not a question of mesira. Ask any Rav or Possek.