Reply To: who goes to whom?

This is always a funny question. For each person “THEY” are in town and the other is “OOT”. It is appropriate for a boy to go meet the girl and her parents the first time if possible. Many families make different accommodations depending on the ages of the “daters” involved. There really are no rules, you do what works out best for the couple. If you start with What the Rules are, you are starting off on the wrong foot and not giving the shidduch the importance it deserves. Try to work things out according to what works best for both.