a true tzaddik is like avraham avinu who was pained when he had no guests or like rav aryeh levine who couldn’t say “no” to anyone because he truly loved everyone, and giving gave him the greatest pleasure.
Absolutely not.
A true Tzaddik was Avraham Avinu who had to Darshin that he was allowed to go greet the guests in the presence of the Shechina. If he would had Paskined he could not go, he would not have gone, no matter how much it would have “pained” him.
That is a Tzaddik.
Someone who can’t say no, and therefore ignores family and Achrayus, is an Avaryan who gives into their Ta’avos. He is no different than someone who eats a cheeseburger gives into their natural ta’avos.
(Not to say CV that is the case with Tzaddikim, but everything has a cheshbon with a Tzaddik towards Avodas Hashem).