Popa, many MOTHERS ask about dress size and decide the girl is too heavy if the number is two digits (or even too high in the single digit).That is just shtuss. A real mensch looks at the girl, the total girl. What is heavy to one, is curvy and attractive to another. It used to be that a girl who was size 2 would have been shlepped to a doctor to see why she was malnourished. It is all about how society encpurages people to perceive things. One of the MOST attractive girls I know, who is getting married very soon to a really adorable guy, is definitely not a skinny mini. She wears a two digit size dress, I am sure, but her vivacious personality, sweet and generous smile, bautiful eyes, and quick wit, are qualities that are so attractive that I doubt many guys ever looked at her and said, “Boy, am I gonna get that Shadchan!”
Guys (and girls, too) need to feel attraction to their dates. But the attraction should not be based solely on artificial standards that are in the end, quite meaningless.