BSD – Was that an haskama?
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and once your on the topic, I have a whole list, but for starters, why does a bar mitzvah have to be a mini chasunah? Why can’t it be a small affair done tastefully in the house and invite only immediate family plus one or two close friends. These bar mitzvahs put a strain on people’s time and on the baal simcha’s $$$. And how many stories do we hear of the baal simcha collapsing with a heart attack by a wedding because the one night simcha is putting him in debt?