when the simple yungerman/yungerlafy who sopposedly lived w/o any income and is being moiser nefesh for learning, is using all these fancy gadgets and spending on totally frivilous items such as silver pacifiers, yes, that ups the bar for everyone. Just as in the “olden days” yeshiva guys had yeshivish station wagon for $200 w/o mirrors or a hood, the “gvir” had a ford minivan. When the yungamanchik needed a ford minivan the gvir upgraded to the Odyssey. When the kollel fellow gets an odyessy the gvir leases a Avalon. Its a wild goosechase starting with the simple $5 items.
That is why it IS everyones business. You aren’t giving your child a silver pacifier because he needs it or even wants it. It is because YOU need it!!