heres what i dont understand. you take two people who never spoke to the opposite gender before you have them go out, and then they get enagaged. they were each their firsts. how do they know thats what they want? maybe there was someone better..etc. my husband and i spoke on the phone for a week before we went out had 4 dates btu also spoke a lot in between. thats how we built up our relationship. then u have these boys and girls who do everything thru a shadchan and dont really shmooze with each other unless they are together for 3 hours on a date. again how is that any different. if they would allow the girls and boys to shmooze and get to know each other even on the phone that would be good. Also…what’s the rush you ask? here is a one word answer:PRESSURE!!! pressure from rav, parents, friends and more.
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