aries: i agree with you, technically. But i sure liked getting information from the boys rabbeim, much better. I would ask them a question, and then they would ask me questions to get a better picture of who i was, where i was coming from, and to clarify what i meant by the question (such as “is the boy deep/ can he learn?” and then they would really answer me – often, i would get from the rabbeim that this boy is not what i’m looking for, while others would get upset that i wasn’t going out with such and such a boy. i’ve had rabbeim tell me point blank about the boy’s emotional history – ex. had breakdown, took medication, etc. – and nobody else even mentioned it.
