MDD- that’s very wrong. The boys didn’t go out for supper with each girl and spend hours with her. They chose a girl out of many.
And it’s very ok to drop a girl if there’s a reason for it. Yup, by Chassidim too. But it isn’t a whole game by us.
I’m not taking sides or saying beshows are better than dating, but this is one good part of it.(and prob one of the only advatages to it!)