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Just to put this all in perspective, nobody would want to date someone who wears tanktops in public, for example. This isn’t quite that extreme, but it isn’t a sufficient resolution for me to just ask her to stop… it reflects on who she is, now, hashkafically. And this is a close friend who I can’t give a superficial answer to, and who wouldn’t accept a superficial answer for her relative. And whatever I say will be reported to said relative. And I would feel bad just going on the date to keep everybody happy and give it a try… I’m wasting everybody’s time and I probably wouldn’t enjoy myself at all because I already have all these notions.