geshmakebachur3- I never heard of such a thing. There is a collection every year to buy a chanukah present for the poskim in lakewood-they are so devoted to the klal. You may be referring to giving a present to a dayan that will be adjudicating a dispute you are involved in. Otherwise what could possibly be the problem? I doubt you need to worry that a posek will give you extra koolos because of your gift.
Yogi-kudos to you for being makir tov. Maybe ask his wife what her husband needs. Or ask the rav what his wife needs. She’s sacrificing too.