Of course – There definitely is a mentchlich way to do it. As we know, in our day and age, that it’s not always the biggest Mentchen that reach to levels of power. Unfortunately a lot of people don’t see their own chesoronos and behave not in the proper way.
If you go to the very frum yeshivos, you have to play by the rules or expect to suffer the consequences if you don’t and they catch you!