Aries: I usually neither have the patience nor the time to argue in these threads but now you went overboard.
“Mistakes can be corrected and can be forgiven. “
If his parents prefer a heimish yeshiva, they should instill in their kids that this is comletely unacceptable. They should prevent their kids from doing such a “mistake”.
“the punishment does NOT fit the crime”
It’s not a punishment. It’s a natural consenquence. This boy does not belong in a heimish yeshiva. If he’s an A+ student, let him go to a good MO yeshiva and marry someone his level. I don’t want to send my kids to a yeshiva where this is acceptable. If it’s ok for him then change yeshivos.
“No one suffered, no one lost life or limb over it.”
Goodness. Were you born yesterday? Let’s assume that this innocent discussion will indeed end here, and the boy will not become friendly or flirt with her. The yeshiva would TURN A BLIND EYE to his actions and THAT is a BIG statement. Have you considered his classmates who aren’t as “good” as him and would follow his example? How about the “cool guys” who’d take this one step further? The Achrayus is tremendous. And I don’t think you can take that on your shoulders.
“Maybe if more people would pull their heads out of the sand and out of the shmutz, kids would have more healthy lives and there would be a lot less OTD kids we have to deal with”
Proof please?
Rebbitzen Tzippora Heller states that the frummer you are, the LESS OTDers there are. And if we’ll do as you say we’ll all turn into what MO has become? No, thanks.
The MO posters constantly complain about the trend towards the right. There’s a reason for it: don’t argue with success.