The introvert / extrovert toss up would depend on what your own personality is.
In my case, and A++ super-duper achiver, dance-in-the-middle-of-the-cirle type, would be meaningless to me (in fact, quite possibly a deal breaker), as I’m as B- as you can get.
As far as a male being overly preocuppied with his / his spouse looks, I’d venture a guess and say, its a match made in heaven, and they deserve each other (and lucky for the rest of us, that they’re out of circulation, so the rest of us are safe)
As for the prime middah? That would need to be one who makes every effort to do nice things for their partner. It could be a minor as buying the variety of shampoo the other likes, to as monumental as making a rack of lamb on a tuesday, just because.