Reply To: best of both worlds?

I consider myself an intellectual learner, in school to pursue a career in one of those fields. It’s not that there are few of us, but that (at least from what I’ve experienced) we don’t get set up for some reason. The yeshivish crowd thinks you’re too modern because you are pursuing a college degree from a respectable secular university, and the more modern crowd thinks you’re too yeshivish because torah and mitzvos are a serious priority. I’m going to avoid a long tirade about how I think these attitudes are really hurting and splintering our community (100 years ago it was common – even strongly encouraged – for observant Jews to be osek in torah and an intellectual field, but now it seems it’s either one or the other). A lot of the problems have to do with the shidduch system and the way people are inappropriately stereotyped, which is in many ways reform in comparison to how our avos, imahos and ancestors met.