“oomis-i agree with you 100% but im not here to discuss kids and behavior. i was just trying to find out some advice. BTW(since we live in the same community) I saw two cute little boys on Shabbos and i wish you much nachas from them! “
Thank you so much – I have a lot of nachas bli ayin hara. NOW I AM CURIOUS, though. Who are you(a little hint… pleaase…since we obviously know each other?) Yep, my adorable little boys were here for Shabbos, my kinehora almost 5 year old and 4 month old grandsons plus their mommy and abba. My son took them out for a walk after lunch/ When they came back, they all went to lie down, but the noise from the kids outside my window was beyond belief.
I really stand by what I said. I don’t think you owe explanations to someone for not being available for a meal, if that is your desire. If the person’s feelings are so easily insulted, perhaps this is not the best friend for you at this point in your life. You need less stress, not more, when you are pregnant. Maybe you can have a heart to heart without the kids present, and tell her frankly, “Soraleh (or whatever), I really enjoy your company and I love to get together with you, but right now, I am nauseated by a lot of food items, and I would not want to impose on you to prepare special foods for me. I also would love to get together with you and Reuvein WITHOUT the children sometimes. It’s hard to have adult conversation when the kids are distracting our attention. Tell me when you are available for a couples-only night out.”
Yogi – come over and introduce yourself, if you know where I live.