@am yisrael chai: As I wrote in a previous post, SOME of my friends KNEW what they were getting into and chose to marry their husbands anyway. I’m not talking when the guy is Prince Charming BEFORE the wedding and after he turns out to be a real piece of work.
That said, Knowing what you are getting yourself into and C’V having to call Hatzalah are 2 different issues. Noone wants to get sick or have a medical emergency. The medical emergency is NOT the person’s fault. If the woman knows what she is getting into and makes the decision to marry her husband, then she has to step up to the plate and figure something out. Complaining to me is not going to help. I have no control over the situation and like I wrote previously, how many years can you keep hearing the same complaints about your friend’s (s’) husbands before losing your patience.
If he was verbally abusive before the marriage, he will continue after. That is what I’m saying. You are right, the abused are NOT to be blamed. But, if going into the marriage and the woman sees that the man is abusive, usually just verbally, because he can’t hit her yet, because they aren’t married (negiah) then it it most likely he will NOT change and continue in his ways.
Oh, I have an idea. Next time they complain about the same thing, I will send them to you!!!!
I think we agree/are on the same page, but coming from different directions? Do you agree?