TBT: Just because you haven’t witnessed this kind of abuse (and may you never) doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. What story don’t you believe? You’re naive if you think this would never happen in the frum community.
When my husband and I were dating, he also had a hard time believing that someone could be “THAT bad”. When he had finally spent enough time around my certain family member with raging BPD, her true colors came out, and it made his blood run cold. I said OK, now imagine being trapped growing up in the environment every day of your life.
It’s almost a good thing that we weren’t frum then, because I would have been blacklisted because of her. Fortunately, he married me despite her. It has been difficult, but we have worked together to protect our family from her toxicity. Our children have never been alone with her, and they know nothing about what I went through. It will stay that way unless/until I need to tell them in order to protect them and/or the next generation.
If you don’t believe my story either, that’s your problem. I’m not her victim anymore, and I certainly won’t protect her if others are at risk of becoming her prey. I strongly believe that’s how HASHEM wants me to handle it!