What you want to do is keep someone on hold while you play the field. This depends how you do it. If you tell #1 the truth, I’m not sure right now, let’s take a break and I’ll think about it. In this case you aren’t misleading anybody. And if you don’t like #2, you can always go back to #1 (if he’s available). If the guy wants to wait, it’s not because you were misleading him because you never gave him any false hopes. I have the feeling this isn’t the case, because if it were you wouldn’t be asking the public’s opinion. I have the feeling what you want to do is keep #1 hanging thinking you’re interested in him, while you try out #2. Because by being honest and telling him you want a break, he might just say forget it and move on. You want to control the situation. This is the ultimate manipulation. Yes there are plenty of people who need to manipulate others in relationships. But is this the purpose of any relationship, let alone the most important relationship -the marriage institution-to manipulate others? A lot of people just want to get married, but what is the purpose of this marriage, just to control your spouse? Sadly, I’ve seen quite a few marriages like this!
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