B’shaah tova!
To answer your questions!
– U will definitely know when it’s kicking. If u need to ask, then it’s not kicking!!
– Some people have the minhag not to prepare in advance vis-a-vis childcare until after the birth. Others do.
Btw, I would suggest cooking & freezing food for R”H and for a few days if u r going to be home after the blessed event.
Make sure to take your prenatal vitamins & eat healthier!