Goq, you can’t change other people nor can you control them. What the Mod is telling you is you only have control of yourself in any given situation and you can only change yourself to make any given situation better for yourself since you can’t force someone else to change. So what can YOU do to change your attitude about the situation or change the situation to make it more tolerable for yourself? That doesn’t mean that the other party has no achrius they do, but there is absolutely no control over them and what they do, the only control you have is over what YOU choose to do.
So where does that leave you? Many suggestions were made to you about what YOU can do to make it better for yourself. You can choose to take these suggestions under consideration or you can choose to stay miserable in the situation but know that you are in the right and nothing will change. The CHOICE is yours and in your control. So what will YOU choose to do?