One of the best things I learned from my ‘adopted mother’ was never be afraid to cry. If there is a tense situation, you are both being stubborn or not listening/getting through to each other, then a few tears will melt his heart.
When used correctly, it can change the most tense times. Instead of becoming angry, he will want to comfort you and you can’t be angry either when you cry. It turns what could be damaging to a time of caring and closeness.
It has helped me and my husband avoid entering rough waters before we got there.
Also, never speak about your spouse to others people who don’t have to know about your relationship. When I go to shul, in the back, there are often men talking to other men about their wives. I feel so badly for these wives who have no idea that they were discussing the value of their clothing or arguments they have had with other men?!