Truth be Told: Again, you strengthen my point. I wear a black hat and gartel and went to yeshivisha yeshivous. The people honking in the other forum at 11:00 PM also wear blacks hats. The rabbayim from Torah Temimima and other rabbonyim that were convicted or accused of improper behavior, also wear black hats! What does this say? Black hats do NOT mean anything. People should look at the person, NOT a black hat.
No one is denying anyone’s right to pick someone who wears a black hat or not. But to believe that wearing a black hat makes a person better is ridiculous and close minded. All the black hat does is identify you with a certain sect in Judaism, but not a better or worse sect; just different.
In the MO sect, they believe on getting married at a later time in life.( I guess they want to responsible and make a parnassah and not rely on their shvar or only consider marrying someone rich–who am I to judge?) Just because they are not married by 18 or 23 does not make it a shidduch crises. We, in the orthodox community, consider it a shidduch crises when a girl is not married by 18. I also see that these young “yeshiva” girls who are affected and get married at the age of 24 do not consider a black hat on the top 10 want lists. I have a family friend who has a daughter who is 27 and not married. When she was younger she wanted the Yeshiva guy with a black hat and refused to date anyone but. Now, she tells me she does not care about a black hat. She wants a MENTCH! Someone who is yeras shumayim and kovaya eitim b’torah. It is funny that as you get older, you start realizing what is really important and what is fluff.
The fact that is being lost on you is that the black hat does not have any ideology or “charter”. It is a mere object that identifies you with that certain sect. EVERY sect in Orthox Judaism, either ultra or modern, puts the Torah first and that is their ideology. The behaviors, criminal activists, or the like are all personal behaviors that in no way reflect on the general beliefs of their branch.