mw13:
You’re right, but the point of this whole conversation is that there is too much emphasis placed on what one is wearing instead of really judging someone based on who they are.
If someone is wearing tziztis, yalmaka and whatever kind of shoelace has been accepted by the entire frum jewish population (I’m obviously excluding the black hat from this category) then isnt that enough of a statement of who that person identifies with? And if it isn’t, I think that ought to be changed.
Again, clothing often says something about a person. But not always, and it is definitely not me’akev. If the story someone mentioned all the way in the beginning of this thread is true, that it has reached the point where someone rejected a shidduch of a very good guy just because he didnt wear a hat, then I think it has been taken way too far.