nishtdayngesheft: OK, I understand you better now. Thanks for the explanation.
I was taken aback on the name switch, so I saw it differently. My first comment containing my two cents, did say one should walk in with their eyes fully open. I don’t think he was suggesting that people should enter marriage without thinking it through properly, as with all shidduchim. IDK, he can answer for himself, if he so chooses.