TBT: why do you think a shadchan would be willing to become a personal advocate anyomore than you local 5th grade teacher. Shadchanim redd shidducim they don’t take individuals under their winge and reach out to other shadchanim en masse on thier behalf. if you find someone that will please please let me know.
Of course:
I wonder where you got that musical chairs mashol from 🙂
this program actually works very well for the 25+ girls. As you aptly described, it is not easy to get older girls to date number 1 and certainly not to date #4. As such all that much more appreciation (and compensation) for the time and effort to get there is in order.
The places that have employed this program of 250/500 for the 25+ girls have seen a tremendous amoung of quality attention comning their way.
DY: girls/their parents. either before a first date or before date number 4 unless it seems like a “sure thing”. When a Community/shul/school/ does it on behalf of the girls this problem is resolved. similarly, if one does it on behalf of their friend or relative, it resolves the issue.