Willy, We can only advise you about what we have experienced ourselves or what we have done to help others. You can accept what we say or wave us off with excuses. After all you can only lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink. Please excuse the analogy. You are not our client or patient and we don’t know your full history or story and we are NOT asking you to disclose it, we are just trying to be helpful according to the little bit that you told us. And from the little bit that you have revealed it sounds to many of us that you are stuck and need some help to move forward. We are NOT judging you nor do we wish to argue with you. NOT every therapist is a shidduch nor is every therapy a success at first. It all depends on how much the patient/client accepts what is offered and how much work they put into it. Of course that depends if they recognize the truth or if they deny what others see. In addition, if the patient/client does not feel comfortable with the therapist they chose they will never accept the proper help from them. That happens as well but one should not feel discouraged by that they should seriously consider finding another therapist that they feel more comfortable working with.
Whatever you choose and whatever you do, you should just know that people do care about you and love you and wish you well. Whatever is keeping you from moving forward is not an immovable force. You just need to define it and find a way to get around it. Hatzlocha rabbah!