oomis1105:
“If a mother tells her daughter to do something and that something is NOT against halacha, the daughter is obligated to do as her mother asks,out of Kibud Av v’Eim… As long as the mother is not overes halacha, the daughter who disobeys her IS overes.”
Not necessarily. First of all, as pba pointed out, there are shitos that hold that one is not mechuyav to listen to a parent in anything that does not directly concern the parent.
Secondly, if a parent tells a child to do something against the halacha, it is not considered kibud av v’eim to listen to them. This applies to even a chumra in halacha, but not to a minhag for no reason. I would certainly say that wanting to wear a skirt 4 inches below the knee instead of 2 inches below the knee (to make sure the knee is not showing) is a chumra in halacha, so one would not be mechuyav to listen to one’s parents in this case.
However, I am by no means a possek, and all halacha li’maseh shailos should be directed to your LOR.
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guy-ocho:
“why r u assuming guys won’t understand?”
Because men simply do not have that same pull to look good as women do. It’s just not there. Just as women cannot understand why it is that us men have such a drive to look at women, we cannot possibly understand why they care so much about how they look.