yochi – Chabad is not chassidish, they’re a different world altogether (personally, I think they’re the religion closest to Judaism, as Rav Shach said).
As for the topic, I actually went down this path for some time. Now I’m more generally Orthodox, I don’t wear any labels – I’m not chassidish, not chareidi, not MO either.
I happen to only wear a black kippah and generally white shirts, daven with an ashkenazi (hungarian-chassidishe) pronunciation, speak Yiddish also but at home Ivrit, and am pretty strongly not-Zionist (Vayoel Moshe and Divrei Yoel have pretty good spots in my bookshelf).
On the other hand, when the wind is strong, I may wear a baseball cap to prevent my kippah from flying away (let’s not even mention hats!); I have fast internet at home, have a fulltime job in IT, a smartphone with full internet, I’m a vegetarian, don’t drink alcohol and listen to non-Jewish music.
So it was pretty much my own choice to not call myself chassidish any more; I just can’t stand the too strict dress code and I just feel I can’t match what is expected from a chassidishe person. I’m just not anywhere near that level, and I don’t expect to reach that level anytime soon.
However, SHOULD I really want it, I could of course abandon the non-frum dress (baseball cap, sometimes), I *could* wear only chassidishe dress, I could throw out the chassidishe music, I could do away with the smartphone and get a dumphone (ie, kosher), I could (with difficulty) survive without internet.
Oh, right, I forgot – I have three cats at home (saved from death as weakened sick street cats) and would never give them up. Having cats is pretty much a no-no for anyone pretending to want to be chassidish, *especially* in E”Y. Not even chassidish but chareidi altogether…