RedNails19 – do you have a list for the girls too, i sure would love to see it!!
sorry, but i dont buy this thread, there is a lot of men bashing going on here, much of what was written is basic common sense anyway and if a guy doesnt have basic common sense, then just dont say hello to him again.
and now for some replies;
RedNails19: most of what you write applies to the fairer sex too. i dated somone not so far back, she came direct from work, hot, sweaty, hair was a mess….. yes, i didnt say hi to her since.
about holding the door, well this is an old kvetch of mine, but MEN GO FIRST, that is the tzinusdig halachik was to go!!!! yes, abviously after going through, you make sure the door stays open for her too!!
ZeesKeit, i liked what you wrote, you should not have apologized you were right on most counts.
dont talk about money, agreed, but hey girls, not every guy is a Rothschild!!! so go easy on him, offer to pay your own dinner (BTW, i never accept the offer but i take note when a woman offers) i dated somone who was telling me when to take her to resturants, it started getting expensive.
and if a guy slips. unless it is really bad, let it go!!! he may still just make a good husband.
but if any of you take the entire above checklist and check your date, well, sorry to say this but at 80 yo will still be writing here about looking for the guy who gets it right.
may each and every one of us be Zocheh to find his/her other/better half soon and live happily ever after.