Reply To: how do you improve your middos?

don’t just bump, say something.

ok. i will. i’ve been noticing what’s given me a “charged” feeling inside, and i’ve seen that usually the most important thing for me is to eat and sleep – i can respond much better when i do that.

what has helped me is what people said is that when i have my first reaction, to really think that Hashem sent this to me. Later, when i’m calmer (having slept and/or eaten), i can understand why the person said what they did and try to see where they’re coming from (even though they’re still totally wrong, of course) 😉