vicpr:
“What is so wrong with a working guy?”
There is nothing “wrong” with a working guy, just as there is nothing wrong with a learning guy. If you want to have a husband who works for a living, fine; but please do not bash those who are willing to live on far less so their husbands can learn.
“Why dony you want to make a life for yourself?”
I’m not quite sure what you’re trying to say here. In what way is marrying a learning boy not “making a life for yourself”?
“You want learning? Make sure he goes to a shiur once or twice a week and let him learn on weekends. Guys who do this enjoy learning and look forward to it a lor more than guys who do it every day and its routine.”
Even if we would agree that those who learn less enjoy learning more (based on personal experience, I completely disagree), so what? The point is not just to “enjoy learning”, the point is to learn as much of Hashem’s Torah as possible.
“So I wonder, is it the learning that yoou want or when you do some introspection is it attention?… If that’s the truth, pls grow up before you marry.”
Whoa! Why are you automatically assuming the worst possible motive for wanting to marry a learning boy? That’s like assuming that anybody who marries a working boy is doing it solely because they are immature and want money and physical comfort. That’s jumping to conclusions pretty fast, wouldn’t you agree?
Health:
“Also, most people in Kollel aren’t living the pauper life like they used to.”
Perhaps (although that’s hard, if not impossible to prove), but I believe that this is mostly due to an across the board increase in the standard of living. Today kollel couples may not live like paupers, but they still have a much lower standard of living than most other people.