Many shadchanim do require a picture (from the girl), but you don’t have to work with them! I have a bigger problem with shadchanim who show the pictures to boys (or their mothers!), before they go out. I agree with bpt, if shidduchim is important enough to you, take the time to go out- even if it’s far. Being reduced to a picture is not just demeaning, it’s cheapening and can be very innacurate. Can you look at a picture of anything and know indefinately what it even truly looks like? Take pictures of Eretz Yisrael- if you’ve never been there, will they mean half as much to you? Some shadchanim I know keep pictures to keep names with faces, but some shadchanim I wouldn’t trust with my picture.
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