“If you are confident with your relationship you dont need to convince others. “
If yur confidnet you dont have to convince yurself either.
do you think the gedolim write love notes to theyre wives? do you thnk any ben torah does?
Men adn women are not supposed to be romantick even with theyre wives. Ezra made a takana that men shouldnt be aitzel nishosayhem ktarnegolim and pirkey avos sez the same thing. Husbands and wives are partners not friends not boyfriend and girlfreind or even romantic partners. They are bulders of a bayis neeman something that has to be done with the utmost kedussha.