PBA -“But I don’t see that as being the argument advanced here. I see people arguing that the entire mitzva is inappropriate to the extent it means drunkenness.”
I don’t agree with them, but I also don’t agree with people who hold it’s a Hefker Velt. Two wrongs don’t make a right. I’ve seen over the years many parents just throw in the towel and don’t know or care what goes on with their kids. If their kid is away in Yeshiva, they just assume someone is responsible for them. A lot of yeshivos- noone, not even Rebbeyim take responsibility for the bochurim. Parents must find out beforehand.
This could be the reason a lot of people are against getting drunk nowadays.