AZ, just to get this straight – The numbers I used were for discussion purposes only. They were written arbitrarily. I have NO idea what the real numbers are remotely like. But I still see more girls than guys who are not dating, much less marrying.
The guys I see in their thirties who are not married, are not married for a reason, whatever that reason is (poor social skills, too picky, mama’s boys, arrogant, very overweight and have poor hygiene, etc.) The girls might also to some extent have similar issues, but we see sweet, fine, pretty, slim girls who are not married, because there are simply not enough guys to go around who do not come with their own issues. The girls have to wait for the boy to say yes to a shidduch, and then for the shidduch to follow through. If the boy is not saying yes to any suggestion, then both he AND the girl are not meeting each other. In the shidduch world, it is more often the girl who is waiting, not the boy, though I grant there are exceptions.