Oomis,
If I understand you correctly, you’re saying that the numbers issue (more girls than boys) is a big enough problem, and boys being finicky and not getting married exacerbates the problem. I agree totally”
Yep, mostly. I also was putting a bit of the responsibility on the twenty girls who are (like the twenty boys), are holding out for what they believe will be a better shidduch down the road. Unrealistic expectations have quashed many a solid-seeming shidduch.