I don’t believe in double dipping, I think this only confuses things. If you date two boys or two girls at the same time, you wind up comparing one to the other and don’t give either one the full attention and chance they deserve ….”her eyes are prettier, he is taller, she dresses nicer, he has dimples, she is thinner, he is funnier, her hair is longer…..” you wind up making stupid comparisons that really have nothing to do with tachlis.
I agree, and would add that one can also forget which one said what, and not have an accurate picture (and it could also lead to an embarrassing situation).
I would add the caveat that sometimes due to circumstances, there might be an exception, e.g. someone is in from out of town.
CS, as far as your friend telling you HER opinion based on the phone call, that was wrong, wrong, wrong! People do ask stupid questions but the guy in question might be a great guy even if his mother asks stupid questions. Your friend’s tainted opinion due to the phone call is foolish and should not be a reason not to go out with a guy that might be a real good match for you. Don’t make up your mind according to your friend’s opinion. IF the shidduch is redt to you, find out about the guy and forget about your friend’s opinion. The phone call and your friend’s reaction might be something the two of you can laugh about in the future, you never know.
Agreed, unless it’s clear that the stupid questions are from the fellow himself (and it still might not be anything more than a small flaw in an otherwise solid character).