It is so sad to see how times have changed. Once upon a time the boys were the ones going after the girls..B’derech Hatevah that’s how it usually is…The whole system is warped! and that’s why there’s a Shidduch crisis. The boys have created for themselves an elitist attitude and it’s not a healthy attitude.
I have a friend who claimed she had the TOP,TOP,TOP boy and any girl that was “redt” to her son from out of town…the girl had to fly in to date her son, bec. Chas V’sholom her son should take off time from learning..bittul Torah… and she continued saying if you have a top boy in Lakewood then the girl does the traveling and of course there was a whole speech about how her son is so TOP that he needs to be fully supported by his father-in-law for his Kollel learning for the next few years.
Hello people!?! We need a complete overhaul on how the Shidduch system is handled. There are so many wonderful erliche girls who are being left out of the loop bec. the criteria the boys expect (and their mothers as well) is nonsensical. The rules don’t make sense and the next generation of boys are being raised with no solid work ethic and a “me, me, me” attitude.