happiest: It’s absolutely not in our hands. You will IY”H find your bashert soon. Besides, there are so many ppl out there who were perfectly “normal” and married monsters. It doesn’t matter. THEY weren’t protected cuz they didn’t go through what you did. I also think that one who suffered such a major ordeal is more ripe and mature. I certainly think you’ll make a gr8 mother (although I only know you through your posts).
eclipse: I’m sooo sorry about your fate. I was always terrified of marriage, but, I came to realize that there are only TWO things I can do: 1- Daven 2- work on MY middos, so if he’s the special boy I’m so sure I’ll marry, I should at least deserve him;) And if Chas Vesholom he’s not, there should at least be ONE settled parent… I hope that you, too will find your bashert REAL soon.