One of our children who lived in E”Y moved back to USA after 6.5 years. They settled in Boro Park near one of the parents. Yes, we did and are helping them partially. Our son is a serious learner, meaning he is not busy on a cellphone or driving a car and using a given credit card to spend money. He is in a pre morning Kollel,a day Kollel and evening Kollel which includes Fridays and Motzei Shabbos too. The kollel pay is fair. His wife is trying to build up a small business she had in E”Y. The question is what you consider yourself e.i. Litvish, Chassidish or some other.
Are you discussing this issue with both sets of parents and see how they can help. Family input should be considered and is important and that means both sides.
Hatzlocha!